Here’s our latest #AfternoonTea discussion. Today we were talking about how we face our fears.
Here are the main points:
- Fear is not just about our own well-being but about our desire to protect others.
- A big factor is our inability to be in control of things.
- There is a healthy desire for control and order that arises out of God’s creation mandate that we are to fill and subdue the planet. We are meant to rule over Creation under God
- However our desire to control goes to the extremes of wanting to eliminate risk
- Creation struggles against us due to Adam and Eve’s desire for complete autonomy and control.
- The things we fear become our idols because idolatry is ultimately about our desire to control without God
- We face fear by remembering that perfect love casts our fear (1 John 4:18) and that God tells us not to fear the one who can destroy the body but he who has charge of the soul (Matthew 10:28)
- In other words, replace fear with reverence. Fear is a parasite on reverence.
- Practical things to help with extreme phobias can include CBT, learning to face them in controlled environment, learning to tell yourself the truth about your fears.
28 And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell.[f] 29 Are not two sparrows sold for a penny?[g] And not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father. 30 But even the hairs of your head are all numbered. 31 Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows. 32 So everyone who acknowledges me before men, I also will acknowledge before my Father who is in heaven, 33 but whoever denies me before men, I also will deny before my Father who is in heaven (Matthew 10:28-33)
8 There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love (1 John 4:18)