Yesterday I looked at the question “Is it right to be angry with God?” Today, I want to think a little further about what we do with that anger when we experience it. Here are some thoughts.
- Take time to pour out your heart to God being open about how you are feeling. You may be concerned about risking stepping into sin by blaming him in your prayers and expressing anger at him. Well, first of all, we don’t have to be perfect in our prayers when pouring our heart out. It may be helpful right from the start to acknowledge that these are your feelings and may not be the right or even a rational response. Furthermore, it may well be helpful to use the words of a Psalm such as Psalm 73 to guide and shape your prayer.
- In your conversation with God, seek to establish the facts of the matter. What is the actual wrong done here and who is responsible? You may want to find an honest, trustworthy friend to talk this through with.
- Turn to Bible passages that talk about God’s goodness, mercy and love (Romans 8, John 3:16, 1 John 4). Spend time meditating on then. Again, you may find it helpful to ask someone else to read those words to you. Thank God for who he is, his love and his mercy to you.
- Spend time reading through the accounts of those who experienced injustice in Scripture and yet held to their faith in God (the life of Joseph, Hebrews 11, etc). Consider how their faith enabled them to keep trusting through testing times and also how it enabled them to express love and forgiveness to others.
- Ask God to help you to forgive those who are truly responsible.
- Ask God to give you insight into his love and purpose for your life.
A little word to those who are seeking to come alongside those experiencing this kind of pain, distress and anger. It is tempting for us to step in and quickly tell them what we believe God has been doing in them at this time. We may think that we are being encouraging but it is seldom heard like that. Be slow to speak, take time to empathise, do not allow them the luxury of sliding into bitterness or blame at God. However, allow God to reveal to them in his time and his way exactly what it is that he has been doing.